For a start being a mother is the greatest gift of being a woman (apart from having handbags and shoes of course).From the very first second you get to know that you are pregnant, you change. Mentally and physically even though the significant changes are yet to come. You try to dress comfortably and wear flats and walk slowly. And through out the pregnancy you plan how you are going to handle the baby and the work and everything. You look forward to hold the baby for the first time. When you get to hold your bundle of joy for the first time, the world stops and it’s you and him/her there. (And husband :D) Even though you have gone through a lot of pain and you can barely get up, you want to hold him/her and do everything by yourself. After going through a lot of not sleeping nights, food tantrums, anger issues and all that is there with a toddler you might again consider having another baby. Well, that is the motherhood for me. You never give up or had enough of it.
It’s okay to let go once in a while. We are humans after all. Being a mother gives you some kind of super powers but it doesn’t contain the package of being sain at the same time. So take some time. Adjust yourself to let go of somethings. You don’t have to be that mother who neglect herself for the sake of her children. Do some exercise at home, eat healthy or whatever that you like. You don’t have to eat the leftover meals of your children. Have a drink with your husband and believe me that’s the best way to pour your heart out. 😀
Recently my husband told me that I need to spend more time with my son. I have my moments with him but yes I have not being spending much time but I watch how my husband and son bonds together. They play together, study together and fight together. He is almost 4 years now and the relationship he has with his dad is amazing. He doesn’t hesitate to tell anyone that his mother and dad are his best friends and what else can you ask from a 4 year old. This is motherhood for me.
There is no perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique and each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities and certainly different children. But what really matters is that a mother loves her children deeply enough.
Stay blessed everyone!